Reflections

After the initial two years, we have some reflections from both the mentors and the mentees of their journeys in the mentoring relationships. On the average, they met once every two months.

Terence & Fioeve:

Hoe Meng and Margaret were there for us when we faced life changes due to demanding requests by in-laws. They see issues from a different perspective, and through biblical teachings, we are able to focus on the issue rather than ourselves. Their experiences are invaluable and their advice is a gift from our Heavenly Father. We will continue our journey together with our mentors and we pray that other couples may have the same privilege. Praise Be To God!

Hoe Meng & Margaret:

MM has been a great, joyful learning journey for us. We are refreshed as we watch our mentees grow in their communication and conflict resolution. As mentors, we provide listening ears, the extra shoulder to lean on, and the prayer support needed. It is beneficial to have a senior couple to walk along, and to pray with and for the young couple. Praise be to God for using our experiences to help and encourage the newly-weds.

Ryan & Elizabeth:

The MM is very helpful especially in the initial years of married life. Before each session with our mentors, we will be given questions to review and prepare for the meeting. Through the discussions, we discover more about ourselves as individuals and as a couple. Our mentors would provide further insights into our lives and relationship. They are fantastic and nice, always available to help us.

Philip & Susan:

We are very encouraged to see how Elizabeth and Ryan have matured in their relationship and applying some marriage principles like praying together as one flesh, praying for agreement and making God the third cord in their marriage. We are very blessed by our mentees’ sharing of their lives together.

The most memorable lesson we have learned from MM is to firstly create a safe space for our mentees to be comfortable and to share freely their needs and concerns.  The MM has also helped us in our own relationship as we get to spend more “quality” time together mentoring and praying for our mentees.  We are also reminded once again to treasure our covenantal relationship and God’s blueprint for marriage.

Rayvee & Cheryl Lim:

Kem Wah and Keen Shan provided a safe environment where we could openly share our feelings and explore questions we had about marriage. This was especially important as we were newly-weds, struggling with unmet expectations and misconceptions of marriage.    Being a seasoned married couple, they in turn would share about their struggles and successes in an honest and transparent manner.

We look to them as very good role models. It is great to have godly mentors who understand our struggles, provide practical advice, yet remain objective at the same time.

Kem Wah & Keen Shan:

We wanted to share what we have received from God, in this case, a blessed marriage. We believe that as we give of ourselves to the couple, God does the bigger job of multiplying our time together to bless His people for all eternity. This is a small way we can serve a great God!

We experience God in our interaction time with the mentees, seeing how God divinely touches their marriage. This is a ministry where we can serve and enjoy ourselves as a couple. After all, marriage is God’s idea!  “A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed”  Proverbs 11:25 (NIV)